Tuesday, September 23, 2008

Just STOP It -- It's NOT Okay

I was reading the following statement by Jim Rohn and thought, no it is not okay if I am around and listening to negative people. Jim Rohn's statement was this: "You must constantly ask yourself these questions: Who am I around? What are they doing to me? What have they got me reading? What have they got me saying? Where do they have me going? What do they have me thinking? And most important, what do they have me becoming? Then ask yourself the big question: Is that okay?" Jim Rohn

That paragraph reminded me of a lesson plan my good friend and mentor, Bob Bassett, wrote on one of our weekly mastermind calls. Each week we read and discuss one chapter from Napoleon Hill's book, Think & Grow Rich. This week's chapter was Decision -- The Mastery of Procrastination. With Bob's permission, I am sharing his lesson with you.

Beginning of Bob's lesson

We've been wondering a long time, and more so lately ...

"Why don't spouses support each other?"

This is Hill's phrase from Chapter 8 that struck me this time:

"Close friends and relatives, while not meaning to do so, often handicap one through 'opinions' and sometimes through ridicule, which is meant to be humorous. Thousands of men and women carry inferiority complexes with them all through life, because some well-meaning, but ignorant person destroyed their confidence through 'opinions' or ridicule."

I've been listening to Robert Anthony lately,and I can now with confidence disagree with Napoleon Hill on this one ...

People who ridicule you are NOT well meaning, even though they cloak their comments with sugary phrases that sound as though they have your best interests at heart.

They DO NOT.

People who ridicule you DO NOT intend to be humorous, even though they cloak their comments with a nervous laugh, hoping no one questions the source of their nervousness.

They are NOT trying to be funny or amuse you.

People who ridicule you ARE NOT ignorant.

They may plead ignorance of your feelings, but be assured that they know EXACTLY what they are doing, perhaps not on a conscious level, but they DO know what they are doing.

They are trying to bring you down.

They NEED to bring you down.

We've all heard the crabs in the bucket story where when one crab tries to climb out of the bucket, the other crabs reach up and pull the escapee back down.

Robert Anthony tells us that people must dismiss and trivialize our goals and dreams because if they listened to us, they would have to question their own lives and think about the dreams they have abandoned.

Too scary for most.

Better to mock than look within.

Bob Dylan says it best in It's Alright Ma (I'm Only Bleeding)

"For them that must obey authority
That they do not respect in any degree
Who despise their jobs, their destinies
Speak jealously of them that are free
While one who sings with his tongue on fire
Gargles in the rat race choir
Bent out of shape from society's pliers
Cares not to come up any higher
But rather get you down in the hole
That he's in."

So this is my advice:

Every time you hear an opinion about your new venture, or a phrase that contains the phrase "you should", or a joking remark that stings, or any reminder of what you used to be, or where you came from, and how you will never be any better even though you know you can be, or any comment at all that feels like dogs leaping from the ditch and snapping rabidly at the wheels of your new vehicle,


Stop and ask yourself ...

Why does this person need to bark at me?

What is this person afraid of?

Does this person have my best interests at heart?

What will happen to this person if I change?

Why does this person want me to remain as I am and not grow as I want to grow?

What would I lose if I increased the distance between myself and this person?

And then stop again and ask yourself ...

"Why did I begin this adventure if I didn't intend to complete it?"

"Will I allow others to keep me from my dream?"

Tough choices and tough decisions.

Follow your heart and go back to the beginning of this chapter where Hill tells us to make decisions quickly and change them slowly.

It's YOUR life.

Make a decision NOW about how you are going to live it.

Change that decision slowly, if at all.

End of Bob Bassett's lesson

Wasn't that a great lesson? If you have taken the time to ask both Jim Rohn's and Bob Bassett's questions and realize you are challenged by other supposedly well-meaning people, and you desire to team up with those who desire to help you get out of the bucket, join us on those weekly mastermind calls. If your past thoughts have you going in the direction you don't want to go, send me an email @ irma.white@gmail.com for more information on how you can think & grow rich.

Finally, if your mind is constantly bombarded with limited beliefs, self-defeating and other negative thoughts, JUST STOP IT!

Be Empowered to Prosper!

Irma White
A Mentor With a Servant's Heart

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Monday, September 22, 2008

What You Need to Know About Cash Gifting

I am often asked what do I know about cash gifting and is it legal?

Well, since I am repeately asked that question I was intending to post a blog. However, since my friends and mentors, Bob & Anna Bassett, have already thoroughly addressed this very issue, I thought I'd share their series of articles, Is Gifting a Scam?

Bob and Anna suggest you ask yourself a few questions when someone attempts to recruit you into a cash gifting program. Before I get to Bob & Anna's thoughts, here are the two questions an Attorney General would ask:

1 - Would a logical thinking person pay this much money for the product or service if there was not a business opportunity involved?

2 - Does the income stop when the recruiting stops?

If the answer to the first question is "No" and/or the answer to the second question is "Yes", then it is a scam.

To find out what other questions to ask, Bob & Anna Bassett's articles can be read at their Together to the Top website. You can access the three-part series directly @ Part 1, Part 2, and Part 3.

Feel free to contact me anytime if you have questions.

Be empowered to prosper!

Irma White
A Mentor With a Servant's Heart

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Tuesday, September 16, 2008

Are You Acknowledging Your Positive Past?

I receive messages from Jack Canfield and I'd like to share one of his success principles which is "Acknowledge Your Positive Past."

Jack stated that research repeatedly shows if you acknowledge your past successes, the more confident you'll become in taking on new challenges and successfully accomplishing them because that is what successful people do. He further stated that successful people seek out and accept new opportunities for advancement because they have confidence of a lifetime of much smaller achievements.

End of Jack's message and beginning of my thoughts.

That is exactly what David the shepherd boy did. He acknowledged he had slain the lion and bear. That gave him confidence when the opportunity came to take on Goliath. He knew without a doubt he would be victorious because of his past victories. Acknowledging our positive past will also give us the confidence to take on our goliaths. When faced with new opportunities, we won't be overwhelmed by the challenge. We'll have our positive past as reminders that we are more than able.

So make a list of your past successes -- no matter how insignificant they seem. When you think about it, you'll find out you have more successes than you realize. Then you can say what Grandma Moses said "I look back on my life like a good day's work; it is done and I am satisfied with it."

And, remember this: whatever you focus on will determine the direction your life will go.

Be empowered to prosper!

A Mentor with a Servant's Heart

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Wednesday, September 10, 2008

Blogging -- The Science of Getting What You Want

I'm evaluating a multi-media course on blogging from the folks at Simpleology. For a while, they're letting you snag it for free if you post about it on your blog.

It covers:

  • The best blogging techniques.
  • How to get traffic to your blog.
  • How to turn your blog into money.

I'll let you know what I think once I've had a chance to check it out. Meanwhile, go grab yours while it's still free.

Be empowered to prosper!

Irma White
A Mentor with a Servant's Heart